The awareness that someone has the power and influence to suggest “You don’t measure up” puts a knot in our stomach even as we’re learning to read from the Dick and Jane books and tie our own shoes.
The fear takes on a life of its own as we move through those years when so much of how we think of ourselves is determined by someone else.
Don’t you wish we’d just grow out of this fear? That we’d learn our lessons early and then never ever worry again about not being selected?
It just doesn’t work that way.
Someone else gets the promotion.
You don’t make the team.
The “no thank you letter” arrives from the hiring company.
You get laid off.
The invitation doesn’t arrive.
It’s part of this dance of life.
Sometimes we are selected.
Sometimes we aren’t.
So, yes, our lives will have moments that may disappoint us…
because it’s hard to not be picked.
We are disappointed not only because we wanted to go, attend, be the favorite, be the best…
But also because not being picked may be a sign we just don’t measure up.
And we take that fear to a whole new level.
It’s not just that we didn’t get the job…
we believe we aren’t good enough for any job.
It’s not just that we didn’t get invited to the party…
we believe no one ever wants to be around us.
So how about this…
Instead of taking our disappointing moments to the extreme which is incorrect thinking and just makes us feel worse…
Let’s remember all the times we ARE picked…
And what kind of picking matters most.
Here’s the HOPE to cling to…
God ALWAYS picks YOU.
“I have chosen you and have not rejected you.
So do not fear, for I am with you;
Do not be dismayed, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you and help you’
I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
God bless you, My Friend, as you carry God’s promise with you today…
You have been picked.
P.S. My niece, Kelsey, posted this great reminder on her Facebook page a few days ago: “Sometimes God’s power is shown as much in preventing things as it is in making them happen.” He loves us so much.