I’ve been there. Have you?
When that happens…
Disappointment swells up from my toes. Anger bubbles. My mind feels like it will explode. Every fiber in my being believes I have “the right” to verbally express my disapproval / frustration / disappointment.
But in the deepest place of my heart, I know that my words would hurt. They would not help the situation. They would not be Christ-like.
So I remind myself of the words from God’s heart that can change my moment…
“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this:
Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry…”
Here are the words from The Message translation:
“Post this at all the intersections, dear friends:
Lead with your ears, follow up with your tongue,
and let anger straggle along in the rear.”
Yes! So simple…
Listen … Pause…Speak.
The next verse continues with why this is the better response:
“…for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.”
Not always easy. (I’ve written a note in my Bible dated 9-11-09 next to this verse: “So hard.” I guess I’ve been working on this for awhile.)
This is a model worth applying, don’t you think?
We would change our homes, churches, places of work, and our community if we would lead from listening, rather than an emotional outburst.
I want to be a woman who lives a life that pleases God.
That means I need to set aside my sinful anger…because it doesn’t create the life He has called me to live.
The simple solution: Listen. Pause. Speak.
Try it today. See what happens.