It happens most often when I am tired. Or hungry. Or hurt.
Or when I’m feeling just a bit self-absorbed.
I want someone to fix my world because I’m tired of dealing with the icky stuff.
Have you been there? We could probably wear matching t-shirts, right?
Perhaps I’m overwhelmed with work. Worried about life issues, people’s hearts, and disappointments. I’m tired of it all, and I want someone with a Superman or Superwoman cape to swoop down and make it all better.
The problem is, whoever that “someone” happens to be in that moment, they don’t know that I expect them to fix it! And they usually don’t have any idea what they’re supposed to fix.
I sure can put high expectations on those closest to me. When I’m having a rough time—demonstrated by harrumphs and sighs and terse words—I assume and expect that the person experiencing my ugly mood knows exactly what I want them to do. Incorrect assumption. God bless them.
Here’s what I’ve learned…
There is no one on this earth who can be everything I need them to be all the time. Yes, we step in and help and support and complement each other, but we are human beings. Imperfect, caring, and at times, a blend of flesh, bone, and spirit that is unable to understand or meet each other’s needs.
But here’s the good news…
God has promised that He can step in and fix my world. Not always by changing the situation; sometimes by showing up and changing my heart. He knows what I need, and He provides it.
Deuteronomy 33:25, “…as the day is, so shall your strength be.”
Now that’s a promise to cling to.
Whatever is going on in my life, however ugly my day is, no matter how incapable I feel…
God can fill me up and give me exactly what is needed for that day.
Sometimes I lift a cup-sized portion of needs and ask Him to fill it. He does.
Other days, I lift a bowl, or a trough, or a water tower-sized container of hurts and wounds and prayers, and ask Him to fill it with His strength. He does.
And on some days? I just crumble and whisper, “I can’t.” And He does.
Today I’m choosing to lighten up a bit on the expectations I place on those I do life with. I’m going to show them more Grace. Give them permission to remove their super hero capes.
And then…lift my needs to the Great Giver of peace, hope, and strength.
Knowing He will give me just what I need for today.